What do you want in life?
Life is a one time journey, and yet som many of us settle for drifting through at random rather than mapping out the destinations we would like to see. And sure, it is sometimes fun to go on a whim. But wouldn’t it be nicer to be in charge, to steer your life in a direction that you have set, rather than being led by circumstances?
Do you have a clear grasp of what you want in life? Not just what you wish for, but what you truly want? Then you are ahead of most people.
Here’s a challenge: Before you read on, take a minute and write down 8-10 things you want in life that you don’t already have. This could be anything from a possession to an experience to a career goal or a relationship status.
It is easy to get your wishes and your wants confused. A wish is something that would nice to have, a fortunate situation, a daydream you don’t really see yourself fulfilling: I wish I had a million pounds. I wish I could loose weight. I wish I could be as famous. I wish I drove a Ferrari rathern than a Ford. A want, on the other hand, is more than a flimsy wish. It’s something you truly desire: I want to be a mother. I want to double my salary within the next five years. I want to loose ten kilos.
They look so similar,but unless you know the difference, you could easily spend years dreaming your life away. Luckily, there’s also a very simple method of discovering if what you are daydreaming of is a wish or a want. Just ask yourself this one single question: Am I willing to take action to make this come through? If your answer is no, then you know you are dealing with a wish and you should stop wasting more energy on it. But if you find yourself saying yes, then you can be sure this is something you really want – and it is time to take action.
Challenge update: Look over the list you made earlier and ask yourself the control question: Am I willing to take action to make this come through? How many of the items on your list did you answer yes to?
When you know what you really want in life, you have the advantage of being able to map out the road that will take you there. You won’t get confused by the mirages created by flimsy wishes, but you’ll be able to stay on the path you have decided upon.
Challenge update: Discard your no-items from your list and focus on your yes-items. What actions, small and large, would you need to take to achieve what you want? What action, even if it’s a tiny one, could you do today that would get you started? Got it? Great, now go do it!